Interpersonal Leadership: Trust-Building
“Trusting: Reaching Out with Others” (SL#75)
by Lloyd Elder, Th.D., adapted from SkillTrack® Vol. 7.2 - Trust-Building

1. “Trusting” is Reaching Out with Others

To trust others and to start a trusting relationship with others is a critical step in the essential task of trust-building. The first step to trust-building is to be trustworthy, then to be a trusting person. “Trust and trusting” are used most often in this article as a verb form, not an adjective or noun. For example we often make such statements as: “I trust you with my life.” “I trust you with this confidential information.” “I am trusting you to finish this project on time and within budget.” “I trust our personal relationship to be mutually satisfactory.”

“Trusting with others” expresses the reciprocal nature of trusting; it is not a lonely, solo, one-way practice. The emphasis, however, is on your own trusting role and practice. Do you trust others, really trust them? Or have you become a “practicing cynic,” trusting no one about anything? I don’t think so, but we all can improve and develop. You start by trusting God with your life and leadership, your calling, and your family. Trusting is to have open and honest exposure of yourself to others; such trusting makes you vulnerable to others, but taking the risk and expecting that it will be mutually beneficial. Trusting includes trusting God, trusting yourself, trusting others, and trusting natural and social processes. (See the trusting practices and behaviors in this article.)

Dictionaries/Glossary--to trust, trusting
The verb forms of trust are used extensively in our contemporary language, such as:

2. Learning about Trusting from Holy Scripture

We will primarily focus on the verb form “pisteuo” used in the New Testament. It is within the family of Greek words which clearly and extensively carry the meaning “to trust, trusting, and trustworthy (from SL#74):

“Trust” as a verb emphasizes the active nature of “trust in many NT texts, for example:

3. Learning about Trusting from Contemporary Leaders

4. Growing in Your Trusting Others

Is there a process, an intentional way to become more trusting as you reach out to others? Yes, and it begins with you and earlier than you might think. This, and other SL articles, provides assessment and educational practices you can take as you grow in trusting yourself and others, such as:

5. Trusting Practices for Building Trust

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Adapted by Lloyd Elder, Th.D., Founding Director, Moench Center for Church Leadership